I've been noticing that over the past few weeks I've been going through a shift... a shift in my awareness. I love noticing things like this because it typically means I start getting new "aha's" every day.

This used to be scary, because for me, a shift means change, and boy change was scary! Now, I'm a lot more comfortable with it.

At this point in my life, I've had plenty of experiences that have helped me to know and trust that when something shifts and I see something that I've been doing that I want to change, it always ends up leading me to make adjustments that better my life in some way.

The shift that I have been feeling recently is about stress and managing life while building a business.

A life without stress is a myth. Kind of like the myth that once you reach that magic number on the scale, everything will be all happily ever after.

The truth is, no matter how aware or how enlightened you become, there are always going to be things that could be perceived as stressful. But here's the thing, the more aware you become, the better you are at quickly refocusing yourself so that stress doesn't grab your attention and hang onto it for an extended period of time.

For me, just like I realized with my weight and emotional eating, this idea is hitting me at a deeper level with my business. You see, my life isn't going to become happily ever after once I "get there." Life doesn't magically become stress-free when you finally fit into your skinny jeans and it doesn't magically get easier after you are finished launching a product or when you hire a new employee.

It sure feels like it will be perfect when you "get there" but it's not. And it's so fascinating to me, to have learned these lessons regarding my body, and then to see myself having these same sorts of thoughts in other areas of my life.

In the past, I would have seen this as me taking a step backward, but now I don't see it that way at all. Now I know that we never take steps backward, it's just that we are refining and strengthening these lessons at deeper and deeper levels of our being.

This is exactly why I tell my clients not to be so hard on themselves if at times they feel like they've messed up, made a mistake, or fallen off the wagon and aren't practicing the behaviors they've learned. They feel bad because they think they should know better, but actually this is a normal, healthy part of the process of your evolution.

Making a (perceived) mistake isn't something to be ashamed of, it's to be celebrated because it just means that you are refining and clarifying and "awakening" deeper learning for yourself.

It's all part of life. We don't come into this world as living, breathing, thinking human beings in order to "get there" and then suddenly some switch is flipped, and life gets easy and then you can live happily ever after.

We are born to experience, refine, gain clarity, create, feel joy, feel the full range of emotions and then clarify more. We are creators at our core and what we are here to create is ourselves.

So, whether you are dealing with emotional eating, weight loss, feeling validated in your career, finding the relationship of your dreams, or managing the waters of owning your own business like me, you are doing exactly what you are supposed to be doing right now.

You are creating, growing, and learning--not for the sake of making any specific thing happen, but for the sake of your own evolution and experience of life.

Because that is the only thing you are "supposed" to do, and when you learn to love the crap out of this moment right now, then you've really got it. That's when you realize you can have "happily ever after" right now.

Then you see that you can't get it wrong and you'll never get it done. There will always be more room to grow and improve because that's what being alive is all about.

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