Some days like yesterday, I have tons of energy and focus. I feel like a machine, I just go go go, and then look at the clock and realize HOURS have passed, I have to pee really bad and I'm starving.

Other days, like today, I feel tired, not as focused, and I have a headache.

In the past, I would have given myself no slack, determined to produce, complete, check off the entire to-do list for the day, or else.

I had trained myself to abide by the rule that I had to keep up and impress.

Pressure To Keep Up And Impress

Impress who? Everyone from my boss to myself because I was convinced that the stuff on my "things to do today" list, whether they were for work or because they were simply my general life responsibilities, were non-negotiable.

The saddest thing is, I was pushing ahead at the expense of my own inner guidance.

Forcing myself onward even when I didn't feel good, was one of the reasons why several years ago I realized I didn't even know what my inner guidance (or body wisdom) sounded like.

I didn't know that listening to my body when I was feeling "off" was healthy. I merely saw it as a major inconvenience.

But I can't do that anymore. In fact, I've realized that when I don't feel good, I'm not "on" and as clear-minded anyway, so the work that I put out isn't as good as it is when I feel great.

Now on these "off" days, I've learned to give myself a break. I do the bare minimum of the things on my "have to do" list. And I've learned to be okay with that.

Because it's normal to have some really awesomely focused and feeling good days, as well as, other days where you just feel not as great. Understanding this and rolling with the ebbs and flows is really one of the healthiest things you can do for both your physical and emotional health.

For these "off" days, I've created a new list. It's called my TLC list, or what I most recently have named my TCM list… my Taking Care of Me list.

My TCM List

Here's some of the thing I like to do on my "off" days:

  • Move more slowly

  • Take a nap

  • Drink tea

  • Wear comfy clothes and UGG slippers

  • Have a lighter workout

  • Skip my workout

  • Get outside for a walk

  • Stay inside all day

  • Watch funny movies

  • Get a massage

  • Practice yoga

  • Take a long shower

  • Take a long bubble bath, by candlelight

  • Read uplifting books

  • Make myself nourishing whole food comfort foods

  • Hang out with friends I can chill with

Granted, I can't do every one of these things all of the time, nor do I feel like it, but I pick and choose what I can do based on what feels right to me that day.

Taking good care of yourself is something I talk a lot about this in my ROCK Your Dream Body Program because well, it's important and often we forget to do it.

As women, we become numb to the quiet whispers like an "off" day that let us know it's time to recharge. Instead we wait until that quiet whisper has turned into a full on bullhorn yell.

I Don't Feel Good

We have emotions for a reason. We have inner guidance for a reason… it's supposed to help guide us. But what good is it if we ignore it all the time? What good is it if we put it (and ourselves) on the back burner?

No good. If you have "off" days like me, why not try out a few things from my list yourself, or use my list as inspiration to create your own.

Make a commitment to yourself to start listening and following the guidance that you receive in whatever small or big ways that you can.

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