I’ve been asked about how to stay in a high vibe a lot lately, so I figured it was time to cover this topic on the blog. If you have no idea what it means to be "high vibe," what this means is simply to be really happy.

First, I want you to know that we all have our "non-high-vibe" moments.

It’s unrealistic to believe that we could ever be super happy and blissed-out ALL the time.

So if you are struggling with not feeling high vibe, don't beat yourself up. 

We, as humans, have a full range of emotion for a reason. One of my favorite authors on the topic of being high vibe is Abraham-Hicks, who lists our emotions on something called, the emotional guidance scale.

The scale goes from the most positive to the most negative. Positive and negative are measured by how empowered we feel when we are experiencing these emotions.

  1. Joy / Knowledge / Empowerment / Freedom / Love / Appreciation
  2. Passion
  3. Enthusiasm / Eagerness / Happiness
  4. Positive Expectation / Belief
  5. Optimism
  6. Hopefulness
  7. Contentment
  8. Boredom
  9. Pessimism
  10. Frustration / Irritation / Impatience
  11. Overwhelmed
  12. Disappointment
  13. Doubt
  14. Worry
  15. Blame
  16. Discouragement
  17. Anger
  18. Revenge
  19. Hatred / Rage
  20. Jealousy
  21. Insecurity / Guilt / Unworthiness
  22. Fear / Grief / Depression / Despair / Powerlessness

The scale is really helpful as a self-check tool. We can decide ourselves where we are at, and take appropriate action to improve our vibes (i.e move up the scale to higher vibe levels, #1 being the highest). The tips I am sharing today will absolutely help with this.

Our emotions are simply indicators that, when paid attention to, can help us feel better on a regular basis, and ultimately live an incredibly enjoyable life.

3 Tools Every High Vibe Woman Needs in Her Toolbox

1. 12 Steps To Getting Over Negative Emotions in 10 Minutes or Less

This is another Abraham-Hicks tool that I have slightly modified. When you are feeling out of whack, upset, worried, fearful, or any of the other negative emotion on the scale, get out a sheet of paper and make a list of 1 through 10.

For #1, write how you feel right now.

I feel angry because…

I feel scared because…

I feel sad because…

Then, for #12 write how you want to feel on this topic.

I feel happy because…

I feel free because…

Get as specific as you can. Make sure that #12 feels really really good/exciting to you. Like, “YES, that’s exactly how I want to feel!”

Then, for 2 through 11, fill in the blanks, using each line to work your way up the emotional scale on the topic, making statements that feel better and better.


  1. I feel really mad at myself for eating that pizza last night.
  2. At least I didn't eat the whole pizza this time.
  3. I AM getting better at this. I AM making progress. 
  4. Of course I can't expect myself to go from zero to 60 overnight. This is naturally going to take some time. 
  5. It's enough for me to be making progress. I know expecting perfection is silly.
  6. Yes, I want to get into my swimsuit this summer and feel amazing but I also want to build a lifestyle that is sustainable. 
  7. And of course I am going to reach for pizza after the day I have had! This has helped me realize that I need to plug in more self-care. I need to make sure I don't cross the line where pizza becomes my only solution to feeling better.
  8. Things like this are actually a blessing because it helps me to clarify and decide more clearly than ever what I really want for myself and my life.
  9. I'm excited for this journey to continue unfolding. I am excited about all the things I am learning about myself in the process. 
  10. Nothing has gone wrong here. This really is forward progress. 
  11. Tomorrow is a new day and I am committed to this journey of nourishing my way to my goals.
  12. I am so happy that I GET to be on this journey, learning how to (for the first time ever) love and nurture myself, and be kinder to myself, all the while, taking steps to transform my body and my life. I feel so much appreciation for this amazing body that I have and this incredible lesson that I learned today!

Do you feel the shift? And that's all it takes. When you're done, you feel 10 feet tall and bullet proof. Try it!

2. Regularly Scheduled VIP Me-Time Appointments

Whenever I notice that I am feeling sad, worried, angry, or resentful one of the first things I do is check in with myself on how much me-time I have scheduled into my calendar. (If I don't put it into my calendar, it will never happen.)

Me-time is time spent doing those things that fill our cup and rejuvenate us. It’s different for each individual, so while I will share a few of my favorites, know that your list may be completely different.

And don’t fool yourself either.

Sometimes a client will tell me that me-time for her is doing things like cooking for her family or spending time with her girlfriends, but then when we really dig into it, these things are more about validation or people-pleasing than rejuvenating to her soul.

Be really honest with yourself when making this list.

Some of my favorites are:

  • Shopping (or window shopping)
  • Bubble bath
  • Pedicure
  • Deep tissue massage
  • Sleep (naps are the best)
  • Run along the bluffs
  • Rollerblading to my favorite spot on the beach
  • Watching my favorite TV show or a funny movie

Follow me on Instagram for a ton more examples

Then, once you have your list, schedule these experiences into your calendar like any other VIP appointment.

If you need help making this happen, ask for it.

That means having a conversation with your spouse or family about what you need in order to feel your best. 9 times out of 10, once they understand how you feel, they will be willing to help. After all, they want the best version of you, not the worn out sad version. 

Make sure to communicate why this time is so important too. 

"When mommy can take a quiet bubble bath all by herself then she has lots of energy to play later."

Being super clear on the benefits when talking about this with your spouse is important too.

Men want to help, sometimes they honestly don’t know how. So if we can fill them in on what our needs are and why, then they are better equipped to support us.

If you need further support and guidance on this, let's chat.

3. Big Picture Perspective

Sometimes we can get so caught up in the details of life that we lose focus on the big picture perspective.

  • What is it that we really want?
  • Where are we going? What are we trying to achieve?
  • What forward progress is actually taking place right under our nose that we aren't celebrating?

For the longest time I have wanted to create a life of freedom, and fun, and LOVE, and adventure, and abundance.

At many stages of the game, I would stop, take an inventory, and realize that while I had some of this, I wasn’t there yet. I hadn’t achieved the WHOLE goal. But I was on my way.

Looking back with this broader perspective now, I can see every stage of the game was necessary for me to get really clear on what it is that I wanted (and also, what I didn’t want).

The other thing is, I probably will never cross the finish line of this goal, so to speak, because I will forever be wanting more. I will forever be a work in progress until the day I die, and thus my desires will be ever evolving and growing. It’s human nature.

The same is typically true for our dream body goals too. It's not that we are never satisfied, it's that we are forever wanting to expand and take it to the next level.

So why not stop and appreciate all that we have achieved so far?

Stepping back and having that big picture, 30,000 foot perspective allows us to see that we actually HAVE achieved a lot of the things we want and HAVE made tons of progress on the parts that aren’t quite here yet.

Now, if we’re not used to doing this, it can be tough in the beginning.

So one of the best tools I have on practicing this is to get yourself a nice journal and, every night before you go to sleep, make a list of the top 5 things you appreciate about each day in it.

I know for myself, when I am doing this consistently, I am consistently hanging out in the higher vibe emotions. And when I am NOT doing this, I’m not.

The more often you pay attention to your emotions (and then do something to improve them), the more likely you’ll be to stay in the high-vibe ranger versus the lower-vibe range. It’s like a muscle, the more you work it, the stronger it gets.

What are your favorite ways to get or stay high-vibe? Head over to the private Facebook group and share what works for you!

Want more high-vibe training? Check out my ROCK Your Dream Body Immersion self-study course. I give you all the tools you need to ROCK your dream body and high vibe life!