I want a bikini body. I want it!!”

I pretty much shouted this out loud as I closed out of the screen on my laptop. This was several years ago. I was reading an article on Facebook about how bikini season is coming and instead of going after our bikini body, we should all just embrace the body we have now.

The article talked about how we, as women, try to make our thighs skinny and fit the “Barbie” mold in order to be accepted by men and by society. We diet and exercise in order to be “good enough.”

Yeah, maybe sometimes and some people do. But do we need to throw the baby out with the bath water?

What I mean is, that I don't understand why we have to create such black and white rules. 

Wanting a bikini body = bad.


Why can't we set physical goals for ourselves AND love our body as we nourish it toward those goals?

The answer is that WE CAN.

I am all about the self-love movement. But that doesn’t mean that it’s wrong to want to challenge yourself to that next level.

And just because you want to lean out or tone up, doesn’t mean that you are doing it in order to be accepted by men and society! Ahhhhrrg!

I eat healthy for ME.

I exercise for ME.

I wear tiny bikinis and get laser hair removal for ME.

I get my eyebrows and lip waxed for ME.

I wear sexy panties and lacy bras for ME.

I wear perfume and deodorant for ME.

I wear makeup and sometimes even fake eyelashes, for ME.

I get manicures and pedicures for ME.

Bikini Season and Self-LoveI don’t do this stuff to please anybody else but myself.

Sure, most guys like these things and yeah, it feels really good when someone else finds you attractive and tells you so, but all this primping, sweating, and healthy eating that I do is because it makes ME feel amazing.

I feel sexy, strong, confident, lean, and at the same time, feminine.

I feel excited to open my closet and pick out what I am going to wear today, slipping on my jeans and having them hug me in all the right places.

And… I feel just as sexy naked!

Today, more than ever, I understand where articles like this one are coming from. I agree, our bodies are perfect just the way they are, there’s no need to change in order to feel good about ourselves.

But the reality is, we are hardwired to want more. We are creators to our core, and so isn’t it okay to want to continue to set new goals for ourselves?

Yeah, sometimes we CAN get caught up in trying to measure up to everybody else’s standards… but not when we set goals from the mindset of fun, adventure, and self-discovery.

That's a totally different perspective than how I used to set goals... with the mindset of, "When I get there THEN I will feel [blank] sexy, beautiful, at peace, etc... you fill in the blank.

And I think it’s different for each person. I personally have no desire to run a marathon but for some people this is the ultimate high. Other people want to climb Mount Everest or set the record for free diving.

Me? I just want to feel sexy, lean, confident, and at peace in my body. I want to feel powerful, flexible, and at ease in everything that I do.

I want to find more and more things every single day that I can appreciate about the body I have now while I continue to discover more and more ways to take it to the next level, show it more love, and learn better ways to take really good care of myself.

I don’t think that it is wrong to want to ROCK a bikini body. As they say... put on a bikini. There. You have a bikini body. But also don't feel bad if you are excited to take that bikini body and 10x it. Just make sure to appreciate and love it up along the way.

I love getting the text messages when women surprise themselves with how quickly their body is transforming. I love seeing the before and after pics and hearing the happiness in their voice when they tell me about the results they are seeing.

And when they send me testimonials like this one, it truly makes my day:

Since I’ve started working with Sheila, I’ve accomplished weight loss goals I never dreamed were possible. Over the past 4 months I’ve lost a total of 14 pounds, and more importantly, I didn’t feel at all like I starved myself to get here. I love being able to look in the mirror now at my lean, fit body and say, “Bikini season? BRING. IT. ON.”


It’s hard to squish everything into a few short sentences when there are so many things I love now about the way my body has changed. I love putting on my sexy underwear. I love walking around naked! I love seeing the definition in my abs and I’ve actually NEVER seen the definition in my obliques that is now starting to show.

I love how I keep having to pull up my pants and tighten my bra. I love all the energy I have when I wake up in the morning and how it feels to start my day off with a good workout. I friggen LOVE my lunch salad! It’s exactly what my body needs at 1PM. I love how my booty is becoming less of a rectangle and more of a circle. And my calves in heels? Woooo damn!

It feels great to have made so much progress and I’m so enthusiastic to continue! At this stage, I’m literally seeing small changes in muscle definition every other week.

What I know above all else is that we all have the right to want what we want. Loving the body that you have right now, without feeling the need to change it, is just as amazing and perfect as loving your body and desiring more.

And if what I say resonates with you and you’re jumping out of your seat screaming, “Hell yes, I want to ROCK my bikini body, and I deserve to have it!”

…then let’s chat.

Need Guidance and Support?

If you’re ready to begin loving the body that you have now WHILE making progress toward ROCKIN your bikini body (by however you choose to define what this looks and feels like), I invite you to join me for a complimentary 30-minute Dream Body Breakthrough Session.

On this call we’ll discuss your current challenges, obstacles, and how I can help.